Wednesday, October 14, 2009

13 Foreplay Fundamentals

I'm not going to waste any time here; I'll get right to my list.

1. Fruit. Sensual fruit such as strawberries, grapes, apple slices and bananas may be easily found in your kitchen and can be a lot of fun to tease with. Try dancing around your partner and feed him bits of fruit while teasing him with your body.
2. Sensual food. Whipping cream (see my 13 Things to Do with Whipping Cream). Chocolate and other sensual foods. (See my Sensual Food Post).
3. A nice beverage. Wine or a cocktail is always nice. Did you know a hot cup of coco or tea can be sensual in its own way especially in winter? Try a cup of spicy Masala Chai, or a tea containing yarrow, or better yet the aphrodisiac tea - Black Galingale.

4. Candles. Men have a tendency to prefer candles that smell like food – vanilla, orange spice, melon. Women may prefer floral scents for romance. Cluster candles on a reflective tray. I like to mix the scents – Lavender, vanilla or orange spice, Hawaiian flower, white tea & ginger. Visit a local candle shop and select candles together for a special evening.

5. Sensual music. What gets you in the mood? Soft jazz for a romantic evening of slow love making? Underground dance music for some creative adventuring? Hard rock for some fierce pounding? I suggest picking out the music in advance and being flexible to your mood at the time. One night you might like soft jazz, the next you might choose something louder.

6. Lingerie. Silk boxers for him, g-string for her? Silk slip? Flannel pants and tight cotton tank? Whatever you feel sexy in is what you should choose. However, latest polls show men don’t like lots of lace and buttons/snaps.

7. Sheets. If you’re taking it to bed think of what feels good under you. Don’t always think silk sheets are the best… flannel sheets are very cozy, especially in the northern regions.
8. Blankets. If you visit my house, you’ll notice a variety of cozy, soft blankets on a blanket rack in the great room. They aren’t just for making kids’ forts. Ever try snuggling on a leather couch under a fleece blanket? Try it!

9. Lotions. Keep ones that sensually inspire your mind and ones that can be licked off.

10. Feather. Ever wonder why romance writers love writing plumes so much. Heh, heh. Next time you’re at the zoo, pick up an ostrich feather or visit you local sex shop for some top notch fun feathers.
11. Blindfold., silk scarves, hand cuffs. Need I say anything more?

12. Love coupons. Pick up a booklet of them or print them on the computer. Hide a coupon in a special place for your honey to find. A great teaser!
13. Romantic games. There’s a wide variety out there. A great way to add a little exploration into your love life. Always remember, laughing in bed can be a wonderful foreplay move.

What motivates you?


Stephanie Adkins said...

My goodness, Mary. Ya know, every time I read your lists I get horny as hell. LOL! Happy Thursday! *Hugs*

Heather said...

Is it suddenly hot in here?? Great psot, as always!

Alice Audrey said...

Just today my dh and I were discussing the use of ice cream and stumbled upon a new idea; eggnog.

rani (scrapyoga) said...

OK-so totally thrilled to have found your blog and love this list!

Shelley Munro said...

Fun list as usual. I really like Masala tea.

Ella Drake said...

Wow. You really do bring on the heat with your posts! Yummy.

Ms Menozzi said...

Your posts are certainly *ahem* thought-provoking! LOL!

Great list!

Happy TT!

Nessa said...

Great list. I am going to keep it handy. Next week can you do a list to turn off the brain as foreplay. I kept thinking that some of the items on this list are so messy and I wouldn't want to clean up afterwards. I mean, how unromantic could I be? My 13 are HERE.

Anonymous said...

Wow, nice list. I do love these posts. You always have such wonderful ideas.

Happy T13.

Unknown said...

This is the only time being allergic to men, SUX lol
Happy T13!

Jennifer Leeland said...

I LOVE this post. Very nice.

Angeleque Ford said...

Wow Mary. What a great list.

Cambria Dillon said...

Where was this list yesterday when I needed it? Hubs and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary...I was forced to improvise. ;)

Paige Tyler said...

Great TT! Love all those things!


My TT is at

Journeywoman said...

Nice list!

Happy TT.

Inez Kelley said...

Once again, Dr Ruth of the blogworld. Great post

Elise Logan said...

woohoo! you're always full of good ideas.