Thursday 13 - Sensual Touch

Something as simple as a touch can arouse a person. Unfortunately in today’s world the act of slow, sensitive, exploring touches is often forgotten when it comes to romance and love making. Humans from early on are affected and nurtured through touching. As adults, we still crave to touch and be touched; an act relevant to initiate us into the mysteries of sex. Touching each other is a form of communication showing trust, love, desire, as well as an opportunity to learn about each other.

Here is a list of 13 erogenous zones that are most likely to provoke sensual responses.

1. Scalp and Hair. The scalp is very sensitive to touch and who doesn’t enjoy having someone run fingers through their hair?

2. Ears and Neck. Possibly amount the most sensitive parts of the body. Being stroked, nibbled, or licked or even feeling a lover’s hot breath in this area can be very arousing.

3. The Waist. Not often thought of as an erogenous zone, but a bit of kissing, licking, squeezing, and stroking can have an erotic effect. Personally, I like to feel my honey’s hands on my waist. Try it.

4. The Torso. The sides of the torso can be surprisingly responsive to touch, especially light brushing of fingertips or gentle nibbling.

5. The Spine. Very sensitive area you may need to discuss with your partner to see what is preferred. Try a warm touch with lotion or a cold touch with an ice cube.
6. The Chest. Although not as sensitive as the breasts, try light, teasing strokes and slow lingering caresses to create a pleasurable sensual touch.

7. Breasts. Duh. But did you know a man’s nipples are actually more sensitive than a woman’s?

8. The Thighs. The inside of the thighs is highly sensitive. The closer the touch is to the groin, the more exquisite and arousing will be the sensations.

9. The Backs of the Legs. The hollows at the backs of the knees are especially sensitive to touch; try soft touches with fingertips or gentle kisses.

10. The Butt. I love a tight ass. Hmm… there are numerous ways of touching the butt. Try ranging from feather light caresses to squeezing and even spanking.

11. The Face. Yes, cheeks and lips but try placing a kiss on the eyelids. Hmmm…. Feels great giving and receiving.

12. The Neck and Throat. This area responds wonderfully to gentle kisses and delicate fingertip caresses.

13. The Feet. Another area you may need to discuss with your partner. While some people enjoy feet others may be turned off by them. This area is very sensitive to touch from the tips of the toes to the ankle. A foot massage is a great form of relaxing as well.

What is your favorite erogenous zone and how do you like to be touched?

Thursday Thirteen - 13 Foreplay Fundamentals

1. Fruit. Sensual fruit such as strawberries, grapes and bananas may be easily found in your kitchen and can be a lot of fun to tease with. Try dancing around your partner and feed him bits of fruit while teasing him with your body.

2.Sensual food. Whipping cream (see my 13 Things to Do with Whipping Cream). Chocolate and other sensual foods.


3. A nice beverage. Wine is always nice but a hot cup of coco or tea can be sensual in its own way especially in winter. Try a cup of spicy Masala Chai, or a tea containing yarrow, or better yet the aphrodisiac tea - Black Galingale.

4. Candles. Men have a tendency to prefer candles that smell like food – vanilla, orange spice, melon. Women may prefer floral scents for romance. Cluster candles on a reflective tray. I like to mix the scents – Lavender, vanilla or orange spice, Hawaiian flower, white tea & ginger. Visit a local candle shop and select candles together for a special evening.

5. Sensual music. What gets you in the mood? Soft jazz for a romantic evening of slow love making? Underground dance music for some creative adventuring? Hard rock for some fierce pounding? I suggest picking out the music in advance and being flexible to your mood at the time. One night you might like soft jazz, the next you might choose something louder.

6. Lingerie. Silk boxers for him, g-string for her? Silk slip? Flannel pants and tight cotton tank? Whatever you feel sexy in is what you should choose. However, latest polls show men don’t like lots of lace and buttons/snaps.

7. Sheets. If you’re taking it to bed think of what feels good under you. Don’t always think silk sheets are the best… flannel sheets are very cozy, especially in the northern regions.

8. Blankets. If you visit my house, you’ll notice a variety of cozy, soft blankets on a blanket rack in the great room. They aren’t just for making kids’ forts. Ever try snuggling on a leather couch under a fleece blanket? Try it!

9. Lotions. Keep ones that sensually inspire your mind and ones that can be licked off.

10. Feather. My personal fav! Ever wonder why romance writers love writing plumes so much. Heh, heh. Next time you’re at the zoo, pick up an ostrich feather or visit you local sex shop for some top notch fun feathers.






11. Blindfold, silk scarves, hand cuffs. Need I say anything more?










12. Love coupons. Pick up a booklet of them or print them on the computer. Hide a coupon in a special place for your honey to find. A great teaser!




13. Romantic games. There’s a wide variety out there. A great way to add a little exploration into your love life.

Always remember, laughing, giggling and tickling in bed can be wonderful foreplay move.


Check out my other Thursday 13 at Romance Writers Behaving Badly.

HAPPY NEW YEAR! KISS YA AT MIDNIGHT!

Thursday Thirteen - 13 Ways to Feel Sexy

It's a busy week so I've chosen to rerun an old favorite. Enjoy!




Busy schedules and unsuccessful diets are the primary reasons many of us don’t feel sexy. Who can feel sexy when they feel tired and frumpy? Women are beautiful creatures; we just need to remind ourselves of it periodically. Now put the chocolate away (well, maybe not) for this one and take notes.

1. Do your make up and/or hair. Have you ever noticed how good you feel after a visit to the beauty shop or when you get all dressed up? You can capture that same feeling by paying a bit of attention to your self for a simply dinner at home.

2. Visit a spa, take a long bath, or give yourself a facial. Take a break to enjoy your own skin. Touch it, caress it… then let your honey touch it and caress it.

3. Work out. Go to a gym, join Curves, or just get a couple of girlfriends to walk with daily. The effort not only makes you healthy (may or may not lose weight), but you’ll notice little things about yourself that make you feel sexy. Sometimes, just actually working out fires you up.

4. Wear sexy clothing. I don’t me movie star red carpet stuff or even hooker style. A nice tight silk t-shirt that feels good when you wear it. Or an old worn pair of jeans that really flatter your assets. Look in your closet, take a close look at your favorites and think about how you feel when you wear them. If they all make you want to take a nap… go shopping.

5. Find a material that makes you feel good. I don’t mean flannel because it makes you cozy; I’m talking about silk or cotton and how it feels against your skin. When you find yourself feeling sexy in a particular fabric, purchase more items made with it. Instead of your old blend button down shirts, try an inexpensive machine washable silk blouse. It will go with everything from jeans to a pair of dress pants.

6. Wear lingerie that flatters you. Don’t buy something and wear it because it looks good on the mannequin or honey’s eyes bug out. Wear it because it feels good and looks good on you.

7. Don’t worry about your appearance. Everyone has flaws; just no one else cares about them as much as you do. So what that you have a scar from a surgery or a little pouch from having kids.

8. Plan at least one sensual experience a week for you love. Planning a sensual escapade can be very arousing. Add a little teasing in there to build confidence.

9. Take a shower together. Hmmm… water, wet, skin, slippery… oh, ah…

10. Dance seductively with your partner. Turn on the music just for the two of you. Have fun and do some dirty dancing.

11. Try being the dominant one in the next love-making session. Being in control can be a rush and very sexy.

12. Accept compliments regarding you looks and abilities. This can be a simple lesson in building confidence; and confidence is very sexy.

13. Allow yourself to feel sexy. Take time to reconnect with yourself. Try to find things that work for you, that make you feel good about you and sexy… and then do them.


What makes you feel sexy?

Thursday Thirteen - Food to Boost Your Sex Drive

1. Chocolate... of course my favorite. This natural aphrodisiac releases dopamine, the "feel good" hormone in your brain.

2. Honey. Yes, bee barf, contains the mineral Boron which helps the body use and metabolize estrogen.

3.Licorice has been used for medicinal purposes all over the world. In the orient it is believe to enhance lust in women.

4. Garlic. No, it's not a sexual enhancer, but adds to good health which is important to a healthy sex drive. Try enjoying a meal together with garlic in it.

5. Tomatoes are great for muscles such as muscle control and sexual performance.

6. Spices such as nutmeg, cloves and ginger are know to add a little spice to your sex life.

7. Figs are one of the oldest fruits in the world and is believed to increase fertility.

8. Avocados are know for their aphrodisiac effects.

9. Strawberries, peaches, bananas, and raspberries are easily found fruits that are natural aphrodisiacs.

10. Artichokes contain androstenedion which is proven to increase sexual desire.

11. Celery believe it or not! Add this simple veggie to a picnic and enjoy the benefits.

12. Shellfish such as oysters are natural aphrodisiacs.

13. Chili peppers! Not only do they releases endorphins into the body, but they heat things up!

NOW GET COOKING!

Thursday Thirteen - 13 Ways to Keep A Relationship Hot Part 1

1. Wake up and have a morning rendezvous.

2. Take a morning shower together. Nothing starts a day like a quickie!

3. Spray on some perfume then hug your honey. Some of that perfume may rub off onto his clothes, helping him think about you all day long.

4. Make sure your honey watches you dress and put on something sexy under your clothes. His mind will wander during that office meeting.

5. Give each other a long sensual kiss good bye.

6. Give your honey a smack on the butt as he walks out the door. A little flirtation is always good!

7. Wear a nice softly tinted lip gloss to make your lips look kissable all day.

8. If you meet your honey for lunch, unbutton the top of your blouse to let him know you are definitely not a work, but focusing on him. Rub his leg with your foot.

9. Slip a sexy note into his pocket for him to read later in the day.

10. Get caught washing your car in something skimpy. How about white t-shirt and a pair of Daisy Dukes? Oops! You might get wet!

11. Place music and dance seductively while making dinner.

12. Need to vacuum before dinner but would rather do desert? Put on a French Maid outfit!


13. Hey, if you have a French Maid outfit on, try scrubbing the floor! That hands & knees on the floor will make him like putty in your hand. Take advantage and turn the table on him; use your dominatrix tactics to make him do all the chores!