Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Tasty Tuesday - Food For Sex

 Now who would have thought that something as simple as food could increase or decrease the benefits of sex?

For him: What foods get the male blood flow going?
Some great antioxidants to try out are any type of berries including: blueberries, raspberries and cranberries, as well as broccoli, tomatoes, and sweet potatoes.  Helps to deliver oxygen to the blood therefore the higher the level of nitric oxide the better the overall blood flow.
Scents of Cinnamon Buns, Pumpkin Pie, Doughnuts, and Black Licorice: Scents for men have the ability to rev their engines.  Cinnamon buns ranked number one for activating the sexual senses in a male.

For her: What foods get the female hormones going?

The 3 C’s - Caffeine, Calcium, and Chocolate:

Caffeine: Even a small caffeine buzz can help increase blood flow to the genitals, making nerve endings easy to access and stimulate.

Calcium: is also known to increase blood flow in the body especially for women.

Chocolate: this sweet has a ton of chemicals that can help lighten your mood – including anadamine, and phenylethylamine, which help produce an amazing euphoric feeling.

 For a bonus, ladies, add Cranberry Juice to your must have list.  Cranberry Juice is a life saver can really help keep your sex life safe. Twenty percent of women suffer from urinary tract infections in the world today. Urinary tract infections are caused by bacteria from sex being pushed up into the bladder, and can further cause kidney infections. You can rid yourself of this risk though, by drinking half a cup of (unsweetened) cranberry juice each day. Researchers have proven that cranberry juice can help prevent the risk of urinary tract infections by thirty four percent.

For Both: What foods get both men and women going?

Egg Mcmuffin: A bacon and egg Mcmuffin may seem like a very unhealthy meal choice, but for sex this food combination is very beneficial. It contains zinc which helps keep the woman lubricated and the ingredient that the man needs to produce semen. It also contains a B vitamin that helps trigger explosive sneezes and orgasms.

Ants on a Log (Celery, Peanut Butter, and Raisins): This is a great snack for both sexes.

Celery is packed with androstenone and androstenol; two pheromones that can help men attract women like the plague. Every time you crunch on celery these odor molecules are released that help to boost arousal.

Peanut butter, containing nuts with mono-unsaturated fats, are a well known source of arginine – an amino acid that helps produce blood flow. Men that eat healthy fat found in nuts are also known to have high amounts of testosterone.

Raisins are packed with lignans, which are phytoestrogens that balance women’s hormone levels. They are also a source of antioxidant which helps increase blood flow down below

Monday, April 24, 2017

Monday Mojo - Romance Readers Do It All Night

During any given period, women who read romance novels have a tendency to have twice as many lovers as those who don’t. People who read romance have sex 70% more often than those who don't.

Romance Writers of America did a survey April/May of 2014 and here are a few eye brow raising stats.
  • Women make up 84 percent percent of romance book buyers, and men make up 16 percent.
  • The U.S. romance book buyer is most likely to be aged between 30 and 54 years.
  • 35.1 percent of readers have been reading romance books for 20 years or more
  • Romatic Suspense is the most read.
  • Friends to lovers is a favorite theme.
  • Erotic romance is #1 for eBook downloads.
  • The most important factor in selecting a book is The Story.

What are you reading?

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Secrets to a Great Sex Life

There often comes a time in a relationship where life in the bedroom becomes stagnant or even dormant. The older women become the more conscious they become of the changes in their bodies. In both partners, sex changes and evolves. Desire is a complex and dynamic construct associated with many factors including environment, genetics, hormones, brain chemistry, sexual history, psychological well-being, physical health, and more.

Here are a few tips to “go with the flow” and continue to have a great sex life.

1. Let go of outdated gender expectations. Some Victorian-era beliefs about sex still linger in our collective unconscious, like the double standard that a man who enjoys sex is a player while a woman who enjoys sex is branded as a slut. Women used to be told by their doctors to not have sex after a certain age, but we are now finding out women actually become more sexual after their childbearing years. A sex drive is an incredibly powerful energetic gift to be embraced.
2. Start again. If you've been in a relationship for many years, you pretty much know what turns you on - but will have forgotten to change the formula. Men and women change, physically, emotionally and mentally. Be open to know ideas and trying new things. Talk about what you want, what you'd like, get more adept at expressing it. And ask your partner to talk about what he wants as well.

3. Practice honest sexual communication. Openly talking about sex may be difficult for some who have been conditioned to feel shame and embarrassment about sexual desires and bodies. If you are struggling with sexual communication, or if your partner does not listen, this might be an indicator of problems to come. Be honest and hold the space for open dialogue by remaining emotionally grounded, calm and non-reactive. Respect each other’s needs by listening and acknowledging, and agree to make mutual satisfaction and sexual fulfillment your main goals.
4. Love yourself. Try to exercise regularly to improve health, appetite and sleeping problems. Try relaxation techniques with yoga and meditation. Focus on loving yourself and feeling gratitude for your sexual body and all the joy it can bring you. Remember, you are beautiful and your sexuality is a divine, sacred blessing.
5. Have some fun with role play. It can be something as simple as meeting in a pub pretending not to know each other. Take on new personae. You can be anyone - someone from the other side of the world, someone who has run away to join a circus, whoever you want. And you'll be spinning a complete story, but your unconscious will be coming out too. And you'll be learning to play again. Forgetting how to have fun is the death-knell to many a long-term sex life.
6. Make your love life a priority. Sex is a sacred spiritual act as much as it is a physical and emotional one. Communication and commitment are perhaps the most important factors to maintain the balance of sex and love. "The real secrets here are communication and commitment," says sexual psychotherapist, Paula Hall. "You've both got busy lives, you're up to your neck in kids and their needs, and you've stopped prioritizing your sex lives. By committing to sex, you're making a really important statement to your partner. "

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Earth Day Romance

Yes, I’m a child of the ‘70s and proud. My brother & sister were much older than me and I looked up to my sister with her long hair and crown of daisies. She moved with grace only nature provided. Together we convinced our friends and others to not be litter bugs, nurture a garden, save energy, and be kind to each other. In 1970 the first Earth Day was observed. American’s across the country learned how they could help clean the air, the land and sea.

Many years later… my sister has a lovely garden and still does what she can to preserve the environment.  I’ve found ways to teach my boys how to conserve energy and clean up the environment by starting with their rooms.

Did you know you could enjoy a bit of romance while celebrating Earth Day?

*Conserve water – Take a day off from doing the dishes and laundry. Enjoy each other in the time you’ve recovered from a busy day.  Save the water and take a shower or bath together.

* Use the day to grill a meal outside. Sip on an adult beverage while the steaks sizzle. Eat by candlelight in picnic style. Have each other for dessert.

* Take a break from electronics and go for a walk. Take a blanket to a park and lay next to each other to gaze at the stars before gazing into each other’s eyes.

* Build a fire…in your backyard or fireplace.  Make s’mores, roast hotdogs and have some cuddle time.