Today I am celebrating the second anniversary of my 24nd birthday. So does that mean I'm old? Over the hill? At the end of my youth? With life expectancy around 86... I guess I've only passed the middle.
I've discussed this "age issue" with my friends and we have agreed on several points. The kids are growing, hubby is still sexy, secrets are safe with friends, the grass is greener, the sky is bluer, and life is great! We ARE like fine wine. We are much smarter and don't waste time with silly people.
I feel sexier now than I did when I was 24. I've worked on being a woman for 48 years and I'm getting better at it. The girls are still perky and I like my curves. I'm a warrior in the battle with my hormones as I approach the infamous “change”.
40-something is the new 20-something! According to relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam, co-author of The Joy of Sex, "There's plenty of research that shows sex gets better for women as they get older. It's one of the best-kept secrets of women's lives."
Keep a positive attitude and be the creature of experience. Take pleasure in each other, laugh, explore, and be sensitive to each other’s needs as well as point of exhaustion. Orgasms may become more frequent and intense, touch may feel more sensitive, and sex may become more playful and more meaningful. Enjoy it, live it, and love it. Pull out those silk scarves, handcuffs, and all those things you were too afraid to try 10 years ago!
Jane Polden, a psychotherapist who specializes in working with middle-aged women, says “Older women are more confident of who they are, and it's a deep-seated confidence, which means they're not scared of intimacy, and they're not scared of going all out for what they need to feel satisfied."
A woman in her 40's can be a provocative sex kitten (or a cougar - a lot of young men are excited about being with a 40+ woman. Think of the film, The Graduate, released in 1967.) She is sure of herself and the skin she lives in. Sex is fun, life is good... it only gets better.
In conclusion to my meanderings, I think being 40-something is hot. Hubby thinks so too.