Handcuffs & Silk started out as a sweet romance. A simple one night stand between a lady cop and a lawyer sounded easy but somewhere along the line the characters took over the story and sexed it up. Bring out the leather and restraints...I was off to write about something I had no idea about.
So what did I do?
What any good author does... RESEARCH. Here's where hubby has that Cheshire Cat grin. No, really... I've been pouring over books (fiction & non-fiction), interviewing various Doms and subs and letting my imagination go.
I found the best help on the subject (other than personal interviews) turned out to be the online site Seekers. This site states, "D/s is a lifestyle choice, Domination and submission, where people live their lives opting by nature to be either Dominant or submissive. In a relationship the one complements the other and is based on the gift of submission, and absolute trust."
I must say this sight was not only helpful with my work, but I thought the owners handled the subject in a fundamental and kindly manner.
Writing Handcuffs & Silk became a whole new experience for me and opened a door I always thought was best kept closed. Not only am I becoming a better writer because of my research but I've also developed a sincere respect for my friends who delve into this world. Hubby and I won't be visiting a dungeon any time soon, but he certainly enjoys being my research assistant."
Never be afraid to ask questions, the answers may amaze you.