Friday, August 7, 2015

Fetish Friday Writing Handcuffs & Silk

Handcuffs & Silk started out as a sweet romance. A simple one night stand between a lady cop and a lawyer sounded easy but somewhere along the line the characters took over the story and sexed it up.  Bring out the leather and restraints...I was off to write about something I had no idea about.

So what did I do?

What any good author does... RESEARCH.  Here's where hubby has that Cheshire Cat grin.  No, really... I've been pouring over books (fiction & non-fiction), interviewing various Doms and subs and letting my imagination go.

According to Wikipedia: BDSM is a consensual lifestyle choice, or type of adult role-play between two or more individuals. The compound acronym, BDSM, is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism and masochism (S&M). BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures.

I found the best help on the subject (other than personal interviews) turned out to be the online site Seekers.  This site states, "D/s is a lifestyle choice, Domination and submission, where people live their lives opting by nature to be either Dominant or submissive. In a relationship the one complements the other and is based on the gift of submission, and absolute trust."

I must say this sight was not only helpful with my work, but I thought the owners handled the subject in a fundamental and kindly manner.

Writing Handcuffs & Silk became a whole new experience for me and opened a door I always thought was best kept closed. Not only am I becoming a better writer because of my research but I've also developed a sincere respect for my friends who delve into this world. Hubby and I won't be visiting a dungeon any time soon, but he certainly enjoys being my research assistant."

Never be afraid to ask questions, the answers may amaze you.  

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